In recent years TED talks have taken the world by storm. It is incredible that one person sharing an idea with passion has become so popular amongst our CGI drenched and social-media addicted world.
TED Talks (short for Technology, Entertainment and Design) are relatively short talks given by people from all walks of life. From JJ Abrams to JJ Krosoczka (no, I hadn't heard of him either), all of which have one thing in common: a passion for the subject they are talking about. These speakers (none of which get paid by the way) talk because they are passionate about their message. They take the opportunity very seriously, putting an enormous amount of time and effort into condensing their life passion into a 15 minute talk.
With this in mind may I ask the following questions… Continue Reading
Growing up I was the very definition of a people-pleaser.
To the extent that in my late teens, I willingly agreed to working an extra 8 hours per week, long-term, with no extra pay - simply because my boss put the pressure on – and I wanted to please him.
Symon the people-pleaser. It could have been my middle-name.
Fast forward a couple of decades and three years into my role as a senior leader/pastor of an average-sized city church, I was on a collision course with either burn-out, resignation or most likely both.
I desperately wanted to be the lovable, personable, permission-giving pastor that everyone dreams of having… but I was failing miserably.
Because pleasing people and leading a heathy church are just not compatible.
Whenever I pleased one person, I inadvertently dis-pleased another, and pleasing God, sometimes meant that I would please no one.
But still I tried so hard – until my anxiety levels became so high that the ED doc thought I had had a heart-attack.
During that night in hospital God spoke very clearly through His word to my heart, and it has quite literally changed my life, and the way I lead.
“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29)
I realised it was not God’s yoke that was overwhelmingly heavy, it was the expectations, demands, opinions, suggestions, approval of everyone else. I had the freedom to choose what burden I would carry… Stress, or rest. We all have that choice.
Present day and I no longer live to please people… but like most people, I still like being liked.
As a pastor, not a day goes by where I’m not tempted to please someone, and not a day goes by where I am not faced with the internal struggle…
Do I agree to something because I don’t want to disappoint that person? Or do I follow my heart, my gut, the Holy Spirit's prompting and disappoint that person? Do I say what needs to be said, as graciously as I know how, while knowing that the person will probably feel hurt, upset, and unappreciated?
I realise now that pleasing everyone is not a luxury I have. People will place demands on me every day. Therefore, I will disappoint people every day. Some people won't like me anymore as a result (but hopefully not too many).
As pastors we are called to love people, to lead people, and to serve people, but we are not called to please people…
We are called to please God.
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10)